Creating a Family Constitution

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PART I – OVERVIEW

 

Family Purpose
Introduction to the family constitution
7 Reasons why writing a family constitution is essential

FAMILY PURPOSE
INTRODUCTION TO THE FAMILY CONSTITUTION
7 REASONS WHY WRITING A FAMILY CONSTITUTION IS ESSENTIAL
16 BENEFITS OF HAVING A FAMILY CONSTITUTION AND A GOOD HOME

PART II – PRINCIPLES AND CHARACTERISTICS

21 CHARACTERISTICS AND ATTRIBUTES OF A GREAT HOME
PRINCIPLES OF A STRONG FAMILY AND A GOOD HOME

PART III – DEVELOPING YOUR FAMILY CONSTITUTION

AREAS TO ORGANIZE AND MANAGE
KEYS TO CREATING A GREAT FAMILY CONSTITUTION
STEP-BY-STEP INSTRUCTION FOR DEVELOPING YOUR FAMILY CONSTITUTION

PART IV – HARMONY OF THE HOME

DEVELOPING AN OVERALL VISION AND ABUNDANT LIFE
NATURAL ROLES OF AUTHORITY
ORDER AND COMMUNICATION

PART V – FAMILY RELATING AND COMMUNICATION

HUSBAND AND WIFE
PARENT COMMUNICATION WITH CHILDREN
COMMUNICATION BETWEEN SIBLINGS

PART VI – STANDARDS OF DEVELOPMENT AND BEHAVIOR

OVERALL BEHAVIOR OF CHILDREN
12 STANDARDS FOR CHILDREN’S BEHAVIOR TOWARD PARENTS
INFLUENCES OF MODERN SOCIETY
7 CORE AREAS OF INFLUENCE AND ULTIMATE SUCCESS
12 SUCCESSIVE ATTRIBUTES
7 LEVELS OF VITAL DEVELOPMENT
ENTERTAINMENT, MEDIA, AND MUSIC
FRIENDS
MANNERS, PROPER ETIQUETTE, AND SOLID CONDUCT
KEYS TO EFFECTIVELY DISCIPLINING CHILDREN AND TEENS
SPIRITUAL LIFE

PART VII – ENACTING YOUR FAMILY CONSTITUTION

 

PART I – OVERVIEW

FAMILY PURPOSE
The family is an institution ordained by God and therefore is meant to play a central role in the happiness and well-being of the individual.

The power and strength of the family is derived from the harmony of life that flows so naturally when a home is spiritually centered, ordered, secure, and operating out of its covenant relationship and commitment to mutual benefit.

Though a home has many purposes, its main purpose is to provide an abundant, wholesome environment from which the members of the family can individually and collectively “live, move, and have their being” without interference to that natural flow of life.

It is a place of refuge from a tumultuous inconsistent world, and therefore is reliable for all excellence of living, creativity, recreation, and growth with full joy and self-expression. In addition, it provides the same refreshing environment for the friends and relatives of the family, as it does for the family members themselves.

In essence, a good home is really made up of the positive energy of the family and the extended relations that frequent the home. Hence, it is a good and safe place that an individual can return to time after time, and even carry with them in their every waking moment as a buffer against the loneliness and isolation of the world that is so debilitating to normal human discourse. The “house” represents the physical base where all this good life is represented and comes together, while the soul of each individual represents the spiritual place where all the warmth that is in the house is kindled and extended to others.

It is exactly the security, warmth, and stability of a good home that allows one to flourish in life. Without a good home, the individual is alienated from a certain wholeness, and will usually seek to fill that void that a good home naturally fills from some other source or sources—of which experience shows us that these sources can often be very unhealthy ones. Not having a good home is something that is a deficit for any individual, and one that must be overcome and made up for going forward in life.

For children, a home is the first community in which they learn to interact in a healthy and vibrant way, and discover the value of human relationships. It is from the home that true holistic education is initiated as it serves as a literal training for physical, spiritual, intellectual, and social formation and character development.

Good homes are foundational to any great civilization, for it is from the home that a person learns true civility and purpose of life.

The effort required to build a good home is so self-evidently worth it, that to neglect to do so is to ensure a certain loss of quality of life. For what makes a home special is in fact what makes life special-the ability for the individual to see the potential blessing that lies in front of him, and then to walk in gratitude and joy in the fullness of that blessing as each new day wonderfully unfolds allowing for the rich experience of goodness and delight.

 

INTRODUCTION TO THE FAMILY CONSTITUTION
A family constitution is a comprehensive blueprint and plan of action for creating and maintaining a strong, healthy family. It represents the surest way to successfully building a rock solid home.

It is the guiding principles and practical structure that forms the inner workings and expressed life of the family. A strong family constitution covers every pertinent area related to practical, successful living within a home dynamic.

A family constitution supports the concept of a covenant relationship that is based on love and common prosperity. This is because it details the roles and responsibilities that each person naturally holds within the family order, as well as the necessary and correct organizational and logistical processes that support the various aspects involved in a dynamic family existence.

Ultimately the family Constitution allows a husband-and-wife to take charge of their family life, determine its future, and live the way they have always wanted to.

Therefore, a family constitution is effectual in bringing the following attributes into family life:

• Order
• Clarity
• Simplicity
• Power
• Harmony
• Excellence
• Peace
• Flow
• Companionship
• Love

 

7 REASONS WHY WRITING A FAMILY CONSTITUTION IS ESSENTIAL

  1. The main reason why almost every family needs to write a family constitution is because almost every family has never done anything like it.
  2. Every family in America today has been negatively impacted to one degree or another by the progressive collapse of our culture in terms of moral and spiritual values. That impact is generally reflected in a loss of happiness, hopefulness and quality of life for all people, and specifically reflected in the poor attitudes, weak demeanors, false beliefs and waning enthusiasm of young people.
  3. Most couples go into starting a family with high hopes and great expectations, but without actually putting a plan in place to support those hopes and expectations, leaving their best intentions to chance occurrence.
  4. Once every important aspect of your family’s life is organized, you will never have to do that major work again; all that will be needed to do is to make adjustments, and add dimension to your plan as time goes on.
  5. Initial enthusiasm can only go so far before the general business, wastefulness, and distraction of this world fatigues your ability to develop vision and operate at a high level both for yourself and your family.
  6. Our country is more dysfunctional and degenerate that any time in its history. There are far too many negative influences that will disrupt your life and your marriage, and get into the moral and spiritual fabric of your children’s lives. Only by having a very strong, proactive plan in place will you be able to defend yourself, your marriage, your children from the worst elements of our culture.
  7. Without a strong plan of action, that covers every vital aspect of family life, a family can never possibly reach its full potential.

 

16 BENEFITS OF HAVING A FAMILY CONSTITUTION AND A GOOD HOME

  1. Provides the groundwork for having the family you always wanted.
  2. Provides the foundation for many days and years of organized, happy living, while simultaneously saving you days and years of inefficient living and up and down existence.
  3. Creates a home that is elevated to the highest common standards of life and creativity; as opposed to a home that is reduced to the lowest common standard of existence and pedestrian routine.
  4. Creates a fully functioning adult centered home that is enjoyable and contributing to a living dynamic marriage. Such a home has the ability to fully incorporate the needs of children through its overflow of order, power, and charisma. The opposite of this is a child centered home which is one that has its natural adult robustness, artfulness and positive qualities drained by the chaos and ever-increasing self-centeredness of the spoiled children that have necessarily resulted from being raised in such a home.
  5. Provides contentment.
  6. Provides stability and security.
  7. Provides companionship.
  8. Creates a positive base of operation and excellent flow for all within the home.
  9. Allows for self-development and creativity.
  10. Gives a context and purpose in life.
  11. Involves a natural conduit for extended family and community interaction.
  12. Brings focus to what is most important.
  13. Helps all family members remain centered and balanced throughout their entire life.
  14. Becomes a place where cherished memories are created.
  15. Helps develop and extend healthy personalities in all family members and friends.
  16. Provides the ability for generations to be blessed.

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